“Many people say that I’ve changed, but the truth is I’ve just found myself.” -Unknown
Especially after my second cup of coffee in the morning, I can feel my internal motor chugging along at a brisk pace. When I feel like this, I also often feel like I can conquer the world. I review my daily schedule and I make my to-do list for the day. Then I efficiently jump to it.
It’s easy to do this with goal setting and decision making, too. Briefly sit and think, then jump right in. I used to view my jumping-in as efficiency. Maybe some of it is. But, there is a part that isn’t.
When we rush through our day, our decisions, or our goals in the name of efficiency, we operate on the surface. Goals and decisions are implicitly about change. Sustainable change is a process that happens at the core, not just on the surface. We can tell the difference when find ourselves going back to our old ways – we need to go deeper to make a lasting change. Transformation is the process of going deeper and deeper until the new ways are sustainable. And, even then, sometimes revisiting the deep to maintain the new way.
Are you jumping into your goals but not seeing sustainable change?
TRY THIS: Before jumping into goals, sit with them. Think about them. Roll them around in your mind. Ask questions about them. Gather deep internal information. Then, when you have that deep internal information, make a goal or decision from all the information you were able to gather. Here are some questions to consider while sitting with goals:
How did things get to be the way they are?
What factors were at play?
What part was my responsibility?
What part was outside of my control?
What do I want to be different?
How will the difference change things for me?
Why is this important for me?
How does this fit into the bigger scope of my life and others around me?